If you know you are hurting someone by doing something you are capable of not doing would you stop?
I have asked this question to people who have Misophonia. People who suffer a lot from everyday noises. Noises can be avoided half of the time. And noises that cannot be avoided at all.
But all of these noises exist in our everyday lives.
Most people responded, “Of course I would stop!” “For sure!” “Hell yea!!!” “Absolutely!”
As someone who triggered by so many noises, all I want is those noises to stop! I would for sure stop doing something that hurt another person!”
If the majority of people would not want to hurt someone intentionally if they would stop painful acts if they knew it hurts other people, then why do we continue to participate in a cycle?
Why do we keep making noises that hurt other people?
And by these noises, I mean words that we say. Cold, harsh, sarcastic words. Criticism.
Blameful comments on how people eat, breath, walk, talk and more! The opinions that so eager to deliver to others who have a different point of view or simply do not even notice it.
Do you see the pattern?
We expect and desperately want others to stop making trigger noises. We would not do that to others we say, because it is painful to us. But we do and say hurtful things for others. And the tone of the voice! OMG!!! This one is just like a doctor prescription for me personally. This one alone will make the huge jump in personal growth when accomplished.
Pen clicking is hurtful for me. Making an angry comment to a pen clicker “I have asked too many times to stop the pen clicking” is hurtful for him/her.
Harsh words and blameful comments are just as hurtful, just in a different way.
When we are not intentional when we just moving through the motions of everyday life we just staying in a cycle of taking and often hurting each other. Unfortunately.
Be intentional today. Create a loving or safe environment for someone. Even if it is just one act of kindness. Make it happen. Be in the state of giving. Even for a short period of time.
If people would just share and express more love towards each other
I know how hard that can be on the days when life is not pleasant. I’m fighting my own demons too. Everyday. Some days are great and some days I just want to sleep through and be done with it.
Today I want to generate kindness and love. Today I want to generate a safe environment for people around me. And my wish for today is that you will feel it.