How do you feel when you hear “No one owes you anything! “
What is your first thought? How do you feel when you hear this phrase? What is your first reaction?
Majority of Misophonia community, unfortunately, believes in the opposite. I use to think that way too. Looking back now I can clearly see how many conflicts have been created with that thinking, with that state of mind. So much pain, unnecessary pain has been created and some of the relationships have been destroyed before I was able to realize that
NO ONE OWES ME ANYTHING.
And by that I mean ANYTHING!
They do not have to stop making that noise.
They do not have to understand what Misophonia is.
They do not have to know how you brain reacts to the trigger noises.
They do not have to put up with your eye bowling/rolling or any other things you do with your eyes when you stare at one who makes a noise that triggers you.
They do not have to tolerate your rude reactions.
They do not have to listen to your angry statements or point of view.
No one has to act or behave the way you want them to behave.
We sure want them to do, be and act differently. We sure want them often to know and understand at the same level we know it. We sure benefit from them being loving and caring, and sensitive to our needs. We sure kindly appreciate everything they do to smooth the situation where trigger can’t be avoided.
The actual question “How do you feel when you hear “No one owes you anything!“ will be the indication on where you stand in your personal growth journey, if you have an open mindset, will show you your development level. This also can help you see your healing level. Your awareness level. You can discover so much about yourself by asking yourself “how do I feel when I hear this phrase”. If you are open to see that.
It is scary to look deep and requires a lot of courage. Only when we are brave enough to allow ourselves to feel the feelings, be scared and still move forward we gain our power back.
Our power is not in denial of the way we feel. Our power is in the awareness. Our power is in acceptance.
Acknowledge what you feel and why. Stay with it for a few minutes. Allow yourself thoroughly experience it. Then hopefully you would want to look deeper and heal it instead of running away again or denying its presence.
In my reality it is still different sometime. In some situations that I did not work through/ passed the lesson/or still in denial I can still catch myself thinking and being so sure that another person has to be different, do something different or act differently. Those situations are my indicators on the areas I need to look deeper. These situations are my lessons that keep coming back. And they will be coming back until I stop denying it and learn from it.
I don’t always like it … Or to be exact I am disgusted with some of them. But I know that this is exactly what I need to see and feel in that moment. Those moments (when I don’t deny or resist them) are my brightest and loudest indicators of the areas where the battle between me and my ego is taking place right now. And I am here to acknowledge it and be brave enough to face it. I want to be the one who was able to brake the cycle, brake the pattern and be the one who was able to overcome it. The one who can feel calm and peaceful hearing “No one owes me anything!”
How about you? Are you able to see the patter of your situations that keep happening to you over and over when you feel that people should have been different or should treat you differently? How do you feel towards them when you hear a phrase “No one owes you anything?”
Does it trigger you? And if yes, how?