You do not need an accommodation

🔥🔥🔥1 month without headphones 🔥🔥🔥
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At work 🏫
At home 🏡
At my favorite coffee shop ☕️
Anywhere !!!

I m freaking amazed with the results! I m very happy and proud of myself, and the work I have done! I did not get rid of my Misophonia triggers, but I m capable of living life without headphones where I absolutely had to have them on.

I am extremely thankful for Dr. Allen Rohe

We have talked for hours and I was so pleased to be able to share my thoughts, my pains, my triggers, my concerns and fears, as well as all of my accomplishments of living a life with Misophonia with Dr. Allen Rohe.

I came into his office after my supervisor told me “there is nothing I can do unless you can bring me a doctor note. Until then, you have to attend our weekly meetings. And I can’t tell people they are not allowed to eat during our meetings. I am sorry. Until then nothing I can do.”

The reality was I did not even asked her to do anything. From the day one when I discovered misophonia I took full responsibility for my reactions. I set high expectations for myself to get better no matter what. But during the meeting that day I found myself in a position of walking out of the room full of people eating and crunching and talking at the same time. I could not take it anymore and walked out.

This caused me to have a meeting after meeting when I made several attempts to explain misophonia to a person who clearly did not want to understand it. Or maybe she could not understand it, which can be a possibility too.

I have worked there for few years now and never asked for anything to smooth my misophonia triggers. But that day I was asked to bring a doctor note or stay in a room until the end of the meeting.

I cried on my way home. I did not want to ask for doctor accommodations. I was afraid it will break my belief and spirit, and I will stop working on healing and improving myself. I have read so many stories of successful people who’s parents refuse to put them in a special school/class and encouraged them, and supported them through tough times at a regular school. It helped them to build up the belief that they do no need accommodations. That they are capable of handling tasks just like everybody else.

I did not want to ask for accommodations. I wanted to get better. I knew the reactions and responses can be improved, if I just practice it long enough. The only problem I did not know how much longer it will take. What if it takes a very long time? What am I suppose to do until then?
What if next week I will have same experience at work? God knows it is painful to tolerate.

It was a very difficult moment when for a while I have lost my faith in myself. I was afraid I was not capable of overcoming this Misophonia challenge. I was desperately needing the support. Needing someone who can support. Who can give me that encouragement to keep going in the direction I was going.

Dr. Allen Rohe gave me all I needed that day. All I needed and even more. He said “ This is not a disability. You do not need an accommodation. You know it! Don’t let them do that to you! You got this. You are on right path and you will see you will overcome it!”

That’s all I needed to hear. We all need reassurance from time to time. This was my time. And it worked! Dr. Allen Rohe was absolutely right - I do not need accommodations. I got this 💪

Now I know it is possible
Now I know I m capable
Now I know I m in control on my thoughts
My habits. My reactions. My responses. My attitude.

I m capable to overcome it ! Period . So does everybody else! We got this 💪